I’ve seen many people in life spend way too much time caring about offending people, worrying that their not cool enough or asking themselves, “are these people judging me?”
I know this because I had these issues at one point… and the truth is, “You live life happier not giving a fuck”.
So the question is, how do you get to that point in life?
Because there’s no blueprint for it and it’s something that’s not really brought up in society or school… unless your experiencing it first hand.
So in this blog post I’m going to show you and make you realize how ludicrous it is to give a fuck. I’m also going to bring up some really cool concepts that will make you question your personality and where you think you got it from.
Your Guide To Not Giving a Fuck.
Let’s start off with the first concept. I personally think not giving a fuck comes down to confidence and who you are as a person.
The problem is though most people have this identity that isn’t really their own.
You may think you came up with your personality, you may even say stuff like, “That’s me, I came up with it“, “I can’t do something that’s not me”
But guess what.
Most of your personality at this point you probably didn’t come up with unless you’re a bit older and you’ve been working on yourself….
… but chances are you did not come up with most of who you are.
What do I mean?
Well, here’s some examples, let’s just say as a kid you try to be creative and it works out. Everyone in the classroom says good job and you get lots of validation.
You get so much props for the work you did that now all of a sudden you say to yourself, “I must be a creative person”. Then you start going down those avenues.
Let’s say as a kid you try and step up and be confident and it works out because there’s no other confident kids around.
Maybe the kids around you are just more passive then you are… even though your a naturally passive kid. Then all of sudden you start to develop those personality traits of being a confident person.
Or you can go the other way around…
… Let’s say as a kid you try and step up but you live in an area full of bullies.
Even though you’re confident kid and if you were put in some other neighborhood you would grow up all emotional happy, healthy, etc.
But now you grow up getting picked on and when you try to be confident you get kicked down. This causes you to start developing these negative associations at an early age… and now your personality goes in that direction.
So you might say, “this is me. I can’t change, I can’t change my identity, I can’t become the person I want to be, I can’t become someone else…”
Well guess what.
The core of what makes you who you are has never changed… that’s always been there. But the personality traits that you have… many of those have been developed by reaction, situations, experiences, etc.
You can actually be who you want to be. Nothing is actually stopping you.
The crazy thing is… everyone has a concept of what a cool person looks like… but at the same time we don’t give ourselves permission to be that person…
So be that fucking person.
Now below I have a short video of myself breaking down different things you can do to not give a fuck. I also share some other cool concepts that you will find interesting… check out the video below.
Now let’s get into another concept that I think is very important when it comes to not giving a fuck. And that’s, “SELF-ESTEEM”
Most people have low self-esteem because they’re trained by society to have their self worth and happiness based on having external items like shirts, shoes, cars, etc.
Just think of the way you feel when you have a nice shirt or shoes on… you feel really good.
The problem is though… the way you feel when you have a really nice shirt or shoes on is the way you should always feel about yourself.
It’s weird that we don’t.
Happiness is a default state that comes from you… it’s internal. And the more you practice this concept the more happier you will be.
Now this doesn’t mean not to buy no fancy clothes, shirts, cars etc because your possessions can be a reflection of what you’ve done in life.
And if you worked hard and it’s something you love then of course buy whatever it is you want… but you do it because it’s for YOUR enjoyment.
Not to impress other people.
… these concepts helped you out and gave you some more insight about yourself.
I want to hear what you think… do you have any additional tips that you can share? My readers would enjoy it.
Also if you have a friend who’s always in their head and isn’t sure of themselves… then show them this blog post. Help them and me out!
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